Welcome to RealDelia.com.
This blog is devoted to the idea that adulthood is not a destination. Growing up, I always thought adulthood was the final frontier – a place you arrived and suddenly everything made sense: you knew what you wanted to do with your life, you knew what advice to give your kids, you knew which shoes looked right with that jacket. Turns out, it doesn’t work that way. Sure, you make progress and have those “aha” moments every so often, but growing up is all very incremental and you never really arrive anywhere.
And that’s the point.
Well, my name is Delia, for starters. For a long time, I didn’t think that I could get away with having a blog that had my name in the title. It’s not like I’m Oprah. Or Cher. Or even Charo (remember her? I’m dating myself, aren’t I?)
But when I realized that what I really wanted to write about was that curious journey that is “growing up,” it occurred to me (and some friends who helped me out) that RealDelia was the title I’d been searching for all along. Because, among other things, I’m here to write about what I consider to be the “real deal” when it comes to adulthood – you know, the stuff you won’t necessarily read in a glossy magazine but is true nonetheless. Plus, I think the subtitle – Finding Yourself in Adulthood – pretty much says it all: it’s about “finding yourself” (literally) in a place where you also need to “find yourself” (figuratively). So the blog could really have any title and RealDelia works for me (one friend suggested “Sanity Fair”…any takers?)
What kinds of things will I be covering?
Loads. That’s one of the things I like about having an umbrella concept like adulthood – lots of stuff fits underneath it: career change, therapy, parenting, yoga, aging (gracefully or otherwise), hangovers, marriage, religion. You get the picture. But it will – I promise – all be germane to the theme of adulthood. And it will also- I promise – not just be about me.
OK, I’ll stop there. Our time is up for today, as my internal therapist is telling me.
Let me add that I’m very happy to finally be writing a blog. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for the longest time.
So, in the immortal words of that famous song from the musical Cabaret, whose lyrics I inexplicably find myself singing all the time: